the masculine and money

Money is itself connected to a state of feel good and play. More money will flow when we maintain states of feel good and play with it. However - it's also true that we can play all we like, we can dance naked down hallways and self-pleasure 'til the cows come home, we can affirm our way into higher resonant states and gratitude away our morning journal practice. But the fact remains that the world we inhabit operates to a month end. There are bills to pay, rent to keep up with, healthy, nutritious food to supply that stays within budget, children's mental health crises to navigate, our own wellbeing in late stage capitalism to tend to. 

In other words - shit gets real and we will need, at some point, inevitably, to pay for it in hard cash.

There are rules, regulations, obligations and mandates that come into play when we take a deep breath and a cold, hard look at how our finances are manifesting in our lives. And how we manage that.

One of the things I know a lot about is money and how to make it (and lose it) in this life. But more than that, how to operate within the current system both respectfully and legally when it comes to money. In other words - I know very much how to follow the rules that are set for us. 

The upside of this is I am still in business.

The downside is that sometimes my mind and body and sex have suffered as a result. Sometimes I wonder if this is why I even got into sex magic and coaching in the first place. To find a way to mitigate the harms that can be done when we "over-masculinise" our lives and neglect the more soft, feminine, playful, erotic pulse that lives within us.

the feminine and money

Certainly, I have also seen first hand how much more easily money, sex and life flows when our feminine is receiving love, car and deep nurture.

It is true though that we can't just earn money from this place. We are, in the end, time-bound.

There is a glut of coaches and consultants and teachers who will tell you that you can just magnetise money. You just need to "do business the feminine way". For example, I saw a post online yesterday where a woman talked about her busniess success and her multiple six figure months of revenue and how the secret was "doing what makes you happy. That's it."

I am sorry friends. But that isn't just it.

That women will have systems, support, a team, a strategy in place. And even if she doesn't the governing authorities where she lives will expect her to turn up on time and pay her dues and to report on specific sets of information by specific deadlines - completely disregarding whether that makes her happy or not.

So it's not so much a lie, that the feel good will bring more abundance, as the fact that it is just a part of the whole truth.

Today I wanted to explore how the masculine principles of money then, can be worked with in a healthy and productive way. Not just a principle that stresses us out and has us feel downtrodden and afraid. 

respect for masculine money

Recently, a friend was due to meet a prospective client in the Bundesplatz of the city where I live. 

This is Switzerland. 

There are acres and acres of gold under the pavement in the exact spot upon which we stood.

Talking about meeting a man. For a financial exchange.

Surrounded by the national bank, the government building, and a whole host of big name banking establishments sporting their shiny entrances to the masses.

My friend talked about her hatred of the system.

How corrupt it all is. How against the feminine it all is. How much suffering has been wrought around the world as a result of western capital.

All true - but there she also stood, about to receive money from a man. Who found value in her offering and wanted to give her money as a reflection of the value he found in her.

I was struck, in that moment, as to how maybe we also frame things in a way that block the love. That maybe we actively block the masculine provision even as it tries to make its' way towards us?

Which would be a shame at the very least, right? And at worst, maybe even keep us stuck in loneliness and a dried up lack of capacity to receive?

There is no denying everything my friend complained about is true, and that banking is a hideous industry (and maybe even concept if you read this article here.)

how we learn to disrespect the masculine and money

One of the ways the masculine principle gets warped in this life is through the mechanism of control. Because the masculine carries so much inherent power, it is easily disfigured into a toxic mimic whereby it tries to clamp down on and control the innate chaos of life, in order to maintain that power. In other words, we have it kind of set up to imprison the feminine.

It's truly another scarcity spell.

Because "holding on" is not in service to life, ever. And truly the masculine, when connected to his purpose and heart, wants to serve life more than he wants to reign it in.

Feminine is very chaotic by its' nature. And so the masculine is needed in balance to contain and help direct that. To watch the edges of feminine destruction.

NOT to wipe that chaos off the face of the earth.

As a result of all this toxic control, and the inevitable violation and harm that it leads to, as women we grow up very suspicious of how the Masculine can actually help, provide, and take care of us. We've been traumatised by it, I believe.

We value our freedom. We value beauty. We've been taught this really well by feminism. Hell, we even value the descent into chaos sometimes. We don't want to have to behave all the time.

But we don't want to be imprisoned, thank you very much. We want to be understood, valued, revered, danced with.

the masculine father

Just look at your own relationship to your actual father if you want to get really down and dirty with how you may open to or block the flow of money in your life. Then up-level it to traditional masculine representations of authority - church, state etc, etc.

How do you feel about those things? Have they helped you or hindered you in this life?

The reality is that your experiences around these institutions may well be blocking your capacity to receive.

If you are, like my friend, pretty angry and understandably distrustful, then how can you actually trust enough to receive from this potent, provisional source?

You may have thrown the baby out with the bathwater, ultimately.

the holy masculine

Let's talk about The Father for a moment. That very concept of a Male On High.

Why is it a He?

You may think, as I did for many years, that it's just a misrepresentation of the Goddess. A mind warp. A way to keep me subjugated as a woman. And there is truth in all these things still.

But what if I let go for just a moment and see it as the Masculine principle wanting to provide? What if I see these myths and symbols and paintings as also trying to communicate something good? Where might I be missing the actual passage of love and provision trying to make its' way towards me if I do this? Where am I disparaging in the face of gifts? Disrespectful even?

These have been very relevant questions for me in my life when it comes to allowing a deeper sense of softening and receptivity. Opening with ease and grace to allow allow the things I want to come to actually come.

To the point that now I also work with masculine deities at my altar space. And go out actively looking for examples of male kindness and provision. (Which is everywhere, actually, should you take the time to notice.)

My point is that we are so conditioned through our feminist loyalities to think of the masculine as bad - predatory, exploitative, controlling and abusive - that we may literally now miss how the masculine is keeping us happy and safe and well provided for all day long.

Like a kind of energetic cock-blocking as it were.

Ways to tell if you are also doing this:

1. You focus on the negative aspects of men and the masculine always and constantly find evidence of it

2. You are very defensive against complying with any kind if authority

3. You feel arrogant and entitled - like the masculine principle owes you something.

4. You resist structures of any kind.

5. You fail to discipline yourself and constantly break your word.

a story about my own personal arrogance with the masculine

Let's talk about The Father for a moment. That very concept of a Male On High.

Why is it a He?

You may think, as I did for many years, that it's just a misrepresentation of the Goddess. A mind warp. A way to keep me subjugated as a woman. And there is truth in all these things still.

But what if I let go for just a moment and see it as the Masculine principle wanting to provide? What if I see these myths and symbols and paintings as also trying to communicate something good? Where might I be missing the actual passage of love and provision trying to make its' way towards me if I do this? Where am I disparaging in the face of gifts? Disrespectful even?

These have been very relevant questions for me in my life when it comes to allowing a deeper sense of softening and receptivity. Opening with ease and grace to allow allow the things I want to come to actually come.

To the point that now I also work with masculine deities at my altar space. And go out actively looking for examples of male kindness and provision. (Which is everywhere, actually, should you take the time to notice.)

My point is that we are so conditioned through our feminist loyalities to think of the masculine as bad - predatory, exploitative, controlling and abusive - that we may literally now miss how the masculine is keeping us happy and safe and well provided for all day long.

Like a kind of energetic cock-blocking as it were.

Ways to tell if you are also doing this:

1. You focus on the negative aspects of men and the masculine always and constantly find evidence of it

2. You are very defensive against complying with any kind if authority

3. You feel arrogant and entitled - like the masculine principle owes you something.

4. You resist structures of any kind.

5. You fail to discipline yourself and constantly break your word.

let's bring this back to the masculine principle of money

OK so let's start to wrap it up.

How can we course correct and begin to work ourselves back into a healthy relationship with the masculine and money? 

Perhaps it's worth mentioning that It's not just arrogance that blocks us from receiving "him", but that it is also dissociation and avoidance. 

How do you react in the face of spreadsheets, for example? How do you handle your bank statements and bills? Are you, as I was for many years, afraid to open them and take a look? Is it not just arrogance that has you refusing to open the emails, but fear of what they will say?

We have grown up with a toxic masculine, we are encumbered with numerous experiences of how the masculine principle has acted from a place of control and violation. No wonder we would feel so mych lack of safety inhis energetic presence then. No wonder we might weave more stories of how money is evil and likely to cause only harm. Can you feel the connection? Between our own traumatic histories as women and how we might, in the end, be vlockign the thing we most wanted? HIM.

the masculine is action

No wonder we would oscillate and procrastinate and refuse to take even the simple action of knowing what is in our bank accounts then.

But this post is all about trying to remedy that.

Simply put - you will not know financial abundance unless you have your shit clean and dialled and your financial house in order too. You will never be able to enjoy and open to receiving more financial flow if your house is in a mess and you are refusing to take note of it. You will likely remain disempowered and stuck around money if you stay terrified and angry with it.

You can practice all the feminine energy skills around money that you like (and I suggest you do), but truth be told you could also take a look at the following.

Spreadsheets and Budget

Budgeting is a pain in the ass but it also has a phenomenal power. Once you are truly on top of what it will take to remain financially solvent, your world will open up financially. It's almost as though you become more financially trustworthy.)

I can tell  you that not one decision gets made in any of the companies I own without running it through the spreadsheets first. Which is exactly why all my companies are still in business and have been so for the long haul.

Audit and Get Clean 

Where are you leaking money? Tidy that up. Stop it. What are you unconsciously spending on? How many subscriptions are sucking at your account? Where are you putting money that you'd rather not? Where are you not living up to financial promises (aka debts etc)?

Pay attention

Be willing to look it in the face. It maybe a mess right now, but it won't be forever.

Entitlement

Where are you expecting money to come from? (It won't). From whom do you take money for granted? (Don't.) 

Breaking your Word and Intention

Intention is power as I write about HERE. Have you ever taken anything from someone without asking? (Pay it back.) Where are you breaking commitments to yourself? (Make new ones - to save for example - and stick to them.)

THE BALANCE OF MASCULINE AND FEMININE WHEN IT COMES TO MONEY

In short, the way I see this is that we need to get the masculine and feminine in balance when it comes to how we deal with, interpret and work with money supply in our own lives, and collectively. The truth is, in my experience, that money will only really flow abundantly when both these principles of both enjoying and celebrating your cirrent life and state of good fortune, and becoming truly present to the realities of money and developing competency with it, are held in balance. 

We live in a world where we have plainly made life in service to money. There is not a day goes by where we don't see this in action.

What if we could turn the world around so that money became in service to life?

Now that is some inversion I could get behind.

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