What David Deida meant, when he famously said "the feminine is never satisfied" , is that the feminine in us is more than happy to feel a longing for love and connection. In fact she actually enjoys it.  Not only is this true in my experience, but this type of longing only amplifies things in the  in the bedroom. This is why anticipation for sex can more often than not be the most enormous aphrodisiac.  Consider having your partner make the date for some bedroom play, and then have them text you reminders, or leave you voice messages. Anything that reminds you and invites you to anticipate.

Further to building anticipation for the event, have your partner actually put their full attention into hosting it. Perhaps this means they build the environment, or maybe they call you into designing the the setting itself.  Either way, your feminine begins to trust she can let go, when she really, truly believes that someone else has got the details of the thing.  Especially if you are the kind of woman that can do everything and therefore does. Channeling your divine feminine in sex is a practice to start letting go and let someone else hold the perameters of the experience.

If you tend to get quite averse to things that don't feel "just so" for you, then make sure your partner talks to you about your preferences ahead of time. What smells do you love? What fabrics? What tastes? What kind of music typically has you drop into your body? How long would you like the container to last etc etc. You don't want any mishaps - like the time I led an online group into a cervix self-pleasure ritual, and my playlist skipped from floaty synthesiser music to Motorhead's Ace of Spades.

No. Your divine feminine will not like that at all.

The divine feminine does not really have to "do" within sex. She tends to flourish the most when she is in full receptivity mode.  Play with having your partner give you things, touch you, lead in ways you may not have expected.

Lose the temptation to control him or her.

Let go and see what they make happen next.

If you find yourselves adding speed to the equation (which often happens when sensation rises) slow it down.

Think you are going slowly? Go even slower.

In my experience, less is often so much more with the divine feminine energy in sex. For example, with the jade egg, sometimes I just play with inserting it and breathing into my vagina. I may even just put it on my belly button and breathe. The simple act of connecting with what is is often more than enough to let the first trickles of sensation through.

The feminine orgasmic rhythm is very tidal - in other words she rises and she falls. There is no linear line to climax where the divine feminine is involved.

Sex can be massively enhanced if the couple allow themselves to follow her pace and intensity. Think of yourselves in homage to HER. The divine. When she wants to rest - then rest. Maybe even stop. If sensation dims, then let it. Would it be so disastrous?

When she wants to get more fierce, allow her to rise. In pace, in sound, in intensity and passion.

The direction of travel is irrelevant to the divine feminine. She only cares that you are paying attention to her.

Oh how the divine feminine loves to play.

With music, with smells, foods, fabrics. Her senses are the means of her exaltation. Really make sure the dynamic is attended to.

Allow yourselves to open breath, to open movement and to open your sounds. Let emotion flow. Open the heart to the experience

Remember, a tight throat means a clenched pussy. Sounds can really help the divine feminine to come through.