what is the compound effect of approving of yourself?

In the book The Compound Effect, the author Darren Hardy talks abut the importance of small choices and how they compound over time.

I love this concept - as choices become habits and habits become behaviours and - if we are trying to stay the course of our intention and goal and to avoid getting pulled back into bad habits - then having a laser focus on what we do in the minutiae becomes incredibly important.

I talked in this blog HERE about how easily we get pulled out of intention. But what I didn't talk about in that post was our belligerence around instant gratification (or not).  About how much we resist having to pay attention to the details of our lives. And subsequently had we make bad choices as a result. We begin to compound the negative beliefs and habits - we use them as a distraction, in a sense. We use negative compounding to pull us off course, literally.

the compound effect of the present moment

One of the core focuses of my online Temple is the power code of approval, however. And it struck me today just how much approval can be used to leverage the compound effect when it comes to  manifesting.

This is because the ways in which we step out of approval can be seriously hampering to the magical path. In fact, it can get so bad that it causes us to just back right up and stop the whole desire thing in the first place.

We start thinking compounding thoughts such as:

Who were we to think we could have the thing?

I mean, we located our desire, we set our intention, we waited a week and....nothing.

We feel devastated and abandoned. The doubt sets is. And before you know it we are....compounding doubt and abandonment.

the compound effect of willing stay open in the heat of the fire

One of the most important jobs of the coach is to help hold a client in the fire of this.

Because feelings can get quite intense in there sometimes. We find the courage to enter the furnace of believing, and then hoping, and we somehow pray that it will all come off without any sweat on our behalf whatsoever. Immediately.

But of course life does not work like that.

There is likely a reason why we didn't dare try to manifest our deepest desires in our lives - and most often that has a lot to do with a belief that we didn't think it possible for us.

Challenging that belief hurts a lot - because when things don't pan out immediately we are plunged into the very feelings we were trying to hide from in the first place.

For example - let's say a client wants to perform her music in front of an audience of at least 5000 people. A pretty tangible intention right? You can imagine her opening to this tentative desire. you can imagine how she had to get into serious approval of herself to even begin to think she might deserve, and be able to succeed at such a vision.

She gets intentional. She takes the steps. She rehearses like a fiend. She pulls together a gig and....

Nobody turns up.

Not one person.

Nada.

sometimes the present moment just sucks

I have never been in this exact situation but I have been in similar ones. I have "played to an empty room" as it were. I have expected a return on investment but looked at total failure and a blank wall instead. I have expected inclusion only to be thrown out on my ass all over again.

It is precisely in those moments that we can wonder why on earth we tried to make a positive change in the first place. Why did we think we might be able to have the life we were aspiring to? Better go back to listening to our doubts, as they were obviously better at this than we are.  THEY knew it wasn't a realistic dream. THEY knew we should never have even tried.

We leave the coaching container.

Quit.

the compound effect and the power code of approval

Approving of the present moment - getting into relationship with what comes back to us from Source as we enter into manifestation - is an incredibly powerful skill to foster.

Not only does it help you stay the course, but also it keeps you on track to keep making those small, daily habits that compound over time.

My client goes back to the rehearsal studio.

She works on her music daily.

She keeps reaching out. She keeps turning up to gigs. To begin with people talk through her music as though she's not there. 

She keeps rehearsing. She keeps reaching out for performance opportunities.

This is how magic builds.

This is the compound effect in action.

And it is impossible, it cannot be done, without self-approval every damn step of the way.

Each time we go out with an intention and every time we get to have to make right with what comes back to us as a result.

To bitch about our results?

To believe they're not happening fast enough?

To believe the content and pace of our life is somehow inherently wrong?

All of these things will knock us away from power.

Subsequently, the knock off away from power also has a compounding effect. And this is where things get really interesting.

I remember hearing an analogy from Tony Robbins once. He likened compounding to the small turn of a ship. If we turn that ship just a few degrees to the West, then in a short amount of time the different course it takes is barely noticeable.

However, let's say the ship continues on that degree turn to the West. 6 months later - the difference in it's course is incredible. It's huge. It means a whole different destination.

This is why the small, daily habits towards your intention - even if they don't seem to be paying much dividend in the short term - is an incredible skill to hone.

Thoughts beget emotions. Emotions beget actions. Actions become habits. And before you know it, you are well on track to getting what it was you wanted. Every choice is critical, when we look at it like that.

Conversely the same happens in reverse, right? 

If we come out of approval of the present moment, we make choices that lock us once again into a negative spiral. We repeat past mistakes. Sometimes even in bigger ways.

Bad things can compound us backwards as much as good things can compound us forwards.

Failing to approve of our current reality, can lead us back into a course that compounds a whole new destination in the end. One that we didn't actually want.

Getting into approval of what our game brings us day to day, is a way of ensuring we build only on that which serves us in the long run.

Try it! Say yes to what unfolds. Be willing to embrace the feelings that accompany that - positive or negative. And keep showing up. Build habits to tend to the minutiae. 

Keep going.

You can have it, brave soul.